HOT TOPIC WEEKLY ✦ ISSUE 02

This Week's Topic:

Crushing on the unavailable?

Today's topic happens to be something that cuts deep... and I mean deep. Like Olivia and Louis Partridge deep.

Most people think liking someone who is already in a relationship makes you Public Enemy Number One.

Because here’s the truth nobody puts in the movies: you don’t get a dramatic speech, a sudden change of heart, or a grand romantic rewrite of destiny.

Sometimes, you’re just the girl sitting there, smiling politely… while silently learning the hardest rule of all.

You can like someone.

But that doesn’t mean they were ever yours.

Now, Now I get it feelings can't just go POOF, GONE

I would argue that liking someone isn't wrong at all. It only becomes questionable when you act on those emotions.

I mean, people, let's not act like we wake up one day and decide:

"Oh my, he has a girlfriend. Definitely the love of my life."

I would like to assume we have more class than that. (i hope)

Liking someone is already a lot of emotions and complications, but liking someone who has a partner? It's like throwing yourself out of a window VOLUNTARILY.

There are many reasons why we end up liking someone. Maybe they're really kind to you. Maybe they just get you. But we need to learn not to confuse that with:

"Oh, they are 100% in love with me. I'm living the Barbie dream."

I know some people immediately jump to the assumption that a person likes them back, even if they already have a partner, just BECAUSE they are kind to them.

Ladies and gentlemen, let's get a grip, okay?

I can agree that it's okay to like someone, even if they are unavailable, but it is not okay to make a move on someone who is unavailable.

Yes.

Even if they "like" you.

Even if they break up with their partner for you.

Logically, if they can leave their partner, why can't they leave you?

No, because babes, let's be so for real. Don't put yourself in a complicated situation. It's like committing a sartorial crime.

Now before anyone thinks I'm being heartless, let's discuss the real tragedy here.

Because while everyone is busy judging the crush, nobody talks about the poor soul who has to sit there and deal with it.

Sometimes you meet someone who genuinely understands you, makes you laugh, and somehow manages to make your day a zillion and one times better.

Then you find out they already have someone.

(Hooked for life. Never gonna change. LOVERS, PEOPLE. LOVERS.)

And just like that, your little romantic fantasy packs its bags and runs out the back door.

Suddenly there is nothing you can do about it.

You cant flirt.

You cant confess your undying love.

You cant live out your Wattpad fantasy.

And you can't even fully be mad about it.

All you can do is sit there, sip your iced coffee, stare dramatically into the distance, and respectfully suffer in silence.

(Maybe throw a tiny fit. For the plot, obviously.)

Tragic, I know.

But it's okay, ladies and gentlemen.

Somewhere out there is a person who is available, emotionally stable, and capable of liking you back without creating a full-blown scandal.

Revolutionary concept, I get it.

Whether that person is a random stranger, a friend, or hopefully Johnny Depp ten years younger remains to be seen.

And who knows? Maybe it will take a hundred years, or maybe it's tomorrow.

(I second tomorrow, please. Like, I'm being so for real.)

But remember:

Kindness doesn't mean affection, and feelings don't always mean action.

Thank you so much for reading, dear readers.

I'll see you next week. MWAH.

~ xoxo
Blair